On Jul 13, 2020 by FiveTies

5 Regrets of the Dying

Regrets we have when we think that they did not accomplish a goal or the true purpose in life. According to Bronnie Ware, who works in a palliative care centre, whom she has assisted many patients and being with them in their final weeks before going to their own home to die. 

She has witnessed people grow a lot when they are faced with their own morality. The phenomenal changes have let her not to underestimate someone’s capacity to grow at the very moment. Various emotions that play in that eventually led to acceptance of their reality and finding peace and comfort. These are 5 types of regrets about anything would they have done differently. Bronnie Ware stated that there is a common theme resurface which is:


1) I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 

When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.


2) Wish I didn't have to work so hard.

For male and females, they missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.


3) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often, they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.


4) I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.


5) I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

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